Baseball. Blue Balls

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I’m sitting here watching baseball. J is taking a hot bath because of generic back pain, most likely one of the scores of teeny tiny little kidney stones in her medullary sponge kidneys has worked itself loose.

I read some pretty good naughty, dirty stories on Word Press. I feel like I’m not enabling the perverts of the world by reading this stuff.

Meanwhile, the Red Sox and Orioles are going at it in Baltimore. I keep thinking how it’s hot and thoughts of Maryland twenty-five years ago pull me back to the days of early recovery.

Now I wonder if I’m not a sex addict too. I fight all these feelings and thoughts. Sex isn’t an entitlement but sex sure feels good. Expressing my needs and then get ignored, or feeling like I’ve hurt her by acknowledging my need in the absence of any libido on her part, just makes it too painful. Being with a woman when she comes is so incredible. Having my own orgasm too. Then eating breakfast together the next morning after we’ve made love the night before. And she’s glad I’m there and I’m glad she’s with me. If we’re someplace special like the beach in the off- season or Manhattan, that day together is even better.

This part of Summer when we’ve almost turned the corner on the hot weather, and thoughts turn to Fall increasingly are nice. The thought of the seasonal change and how, in your mind’s eye, the leaves turn perfect shades of red, yellow, and orange, the wood fires in the fireplaces smell perfect, are such pleasant thoughts. All that stuff.

OK. Back to Summer and I’m still horny.

Where’s Porno?

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Everybody talks about the mainstreaming of pornography and its cousin “erotica”. Talking freely about our sexuality is a good thing. No disputing that. But what about people whose ideas about sexuality are, well, creepy, and whose sexual behavior may very well be criminal? I’m talking about rape, child rape, and human trafficking.

It’s one thing to play the victim or the perpetrator in a nonconsentual consent fantasy scene, and another issue entirely to rape another person, especially a child. A postpubescent teenager under 18 (age of consent) of either sex is considered a child under the law.

The perpepetual 24/7 365 sexual environment in the digital world has left people jaded and sceptical about any sort of criminality taking place in the real world. They couldn’t possibly be doing that, could they? Then Theodore McCarrick is exposed, next comes Richard Bransfield, allegations swirl around the late Cardinals Bernadin and Spelman. And that’s just the top tier of the Catholic Church. Meanwhile over in the secular world, the exposé has just begun with NXIVM and Jeffrey Epstein. Both of these cases have extremely wealthy, well-connected and influential people associated with them, on the periphery, at least for now. The investigative journalists who were ridiculed and discounted just a few months ago, like the Miami Herald reporters and Mike Cernovich are now being taken seriously.

And the criminality blends in quite well with amateur hedonists, the swingers, the routinely curious, and just plain old erotic fantasizers. Like Waldo in the Where’s Waldo pictures, the criminals can hide in plain sight.

It used to be the issue of missing children was written off as noncustodial parents kidnapping their own children. I’m not denying those occurrences. But there are something like 800,000 children kidnapped every year.

A porous border invites all forms of human trafficking. Organized crime gets involved in enterprises, which by their very nature are illegal and/or morally repugnant. With cannabis on the fast track to legalisation, expect to see more human sex trafficking, of both sexes, and of children in particular.

Having Enough

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The Great American Fear: 😱

Will I have enough?!?!?!? Oh. My. God. What if I run 🏃 out?

This hit me today, more than usual, as I was counting my spare change in order to go buy ice cream. (Nothing odd in that behavior. No Sir-ree).

Well, I walked back from that ledge, did a quick mental inventory of all the stuff I did have, and determined I had more than enough food, coffee, tea, and seltzer to last through Wednesday when I get my Social Security deposit again.

But the salesmen, advertisers, and the hustlers in general, nearly set a hook in me.

I ended up fixing Greek yogurt with banana, 🍌 some malt, and a squirt of Fox’s U-bet Chocolate Syrup. And it was good. Real good.

I fixed black beans for tomorrow. I made a fresh tomato sandwich on Good Bread, toasted, with a liberal amount of good mayonnaise. (Hellmann’s or Best Foods. Duke’s is a highly regarded local brand.)

I slept til noon today, because I can and also because I was tired. After the usual non-vocal mental self-flagellation and self-criticism for being lazy, I finally got the message that this stuck phase might have a purpose, that there is a lesson to be learned.

Maybe I need to write about being stuck. And taking stock. And observing what is not working in my life and what is working. For example, I have a marriage that is a full-on “till death do us part” proposition. Everything extra needs to be built on that foundation.

Bear in mind, that these tech moguls, Beezos, Zuckerberg, etc. are in this game to get in your head. Repeat GET. IN. YOUR. HEAD. At first blush, just to sell you stuff, or sell your digital data to somebody else. But the real creeps, like Elon Musk, want to literally get in your head, with Artificial Intelligence eventually accessing, and controlling the neural transmitters in your brain.

If you want to have trouble sleeping tonight, consider that Pervert Of The Year, Jeffery Epstein, was funding research on AI and its interaction with the brain on the level of the synapses. I know. He’s just another eccentric philanthropist.

Hey. Tiffany, it’s time for my back rub.”

So, just a tip. Unplug, at least, for a little while. Get in touch with a Higher Power, that inspires you to love and serve others more than yourself. That High Power doesn’t have to be God, as Christians define God. Or Jews. Or Muslims. Just consider the collective wisdom of the Universe that wants children and old people safe. Maybe just acknowledge that there is Evil out there. As in Auschwitz or Hiroshima or Jonestown. And live to prevent such horrors from happening again.

People Being Watched

The railcam, web cam placed at the rail station in Ashland, VA. is on. People walk by. Some know there is a camera there. They will look up and wave. Others go about doing whatever it is that they do. The trains are supposed to be the stars. But the minor players in the show get their moments.

Earlier, a middle-aged man wearing those baggy shorts cut off at mid calf and a blue golf shirt, stood, with a camera on a monopod, taking pictures of the Amtrak train #125, when it stopped. He later walked away. Various women walked in and out of camera view. And some men did the same. They were all headed to someplace else.

There is a black SUV parked in the handicapped space. In a few minutes Train #90, the Northbound Palmetto, will pass through. It does not stop in Ashland. #90 is late. That isn’t unusual.

The web cam is extending its focus Southbound, anticipating the passage of #90 through town. A car crosses the tracks.

Outside my house I hear thunder. There seems to be no thunderstorm approaching Ashland, not yet at least. It is Summer. There are hot days and we all swear it’s miserable. And there will be marvelous, splendid storms, bringing noise and water and static discharges over the landscape, perpetually the L’estate movement of Vivaldi’s Il Quattro Stagione.*

The Ashland scene has no people in camera view, just cars, pavement and tracks, until a person in black pants and a pink top crosses the tracks. It is like an ambulatory Good N’ Plenty candy, the kind you buy in a box at the movies.

The signal flashes, the gate goes down, #90 passes through, on the way to Washington and New York. The camera pans by the lovely, verdant commons that are the Grounds at Randolph-Macon College. In the Southern sky are storm clouds.

Here comes Amtrak #66 headed ultimately to Boston. It stops. The tee-shirted travelers board the train using the yellow Amtrak stepstool. The stairs retract. The door closes. After a minute the train moves on.

Summer. Travel. Fun?

*Post Script:

I decided to listen to the Summer Movement of The Four Seasons. I found a recording on YouTube, performed by a chamber orchestra of young women. And I remembered that Vivaldi was, in his day job, a priest at a girls’ orphanage in Venice. He wrote The Four Seasons for just such an orchestra as this one.

Store

I went to Publix to buy some chicken and other stuff. The chicken breast with bone and skin on was $1.99/lb. while the other kind, boneless and skin was more than twice, so I skinned and de-boned it myself, and the skin and the bone pieces with plenty of meat still on them, I’m making stock with. Aren’t I the clever one?

I bought some local tomatoes too. When I get my Social Security check, perhaps J and I will drive over to the Valley, (Shenandoah) and get some fresh local peaches. Shenandoah Valley fruit is superb.

The motivation issues loom large still. But I did something today, at least.

Escape To The Thirteenth Century

I can’t sleep. I don’t know why. My head is swirling with images, Roman Polanski, Nixon, just for good measure, Clinton, Pelosi, Trump. They’re all there. It’s not whether I like or dislike any of them. I have some pain, plenty of heartbreak.

J fell off a step stool at work and hit her knee. There is no bruise, or any discoloration. It hurts, but I think she will be OK.

I put in the DVD of the series Civilisation, done by Kenneth Clark on the BBC fifty years ago. I am watching the episode on the High Gothic world, St Francis of Assisi, Dante, and Giotto figure in this episode. There is plenty of beautiful scenery of Tuscany and Umbria, of the cities of Florence, Urbino, Siena.

I don’t know. I need the beauty shown in this episode. Leave it at that.

August 8-9, 1969

Anybody remember what happened that day?

If you answered The Manson Family killed actress Sharon Tate and four other people, you would be correct.

Fifty years ago.

I don’t remember all the details. Chances are most people who know them would like to forget them.

And we are coming up on the fiftieth anniversary of the Apollo 11 lunar landing , Woodstock, the release of The Beatles’ Abbey Road album, all kinds of culturally important stuff.

And The Manson Family is there, in the mix.

I dunno. I guess the Epstein Case has touched a memory of another sensational and horrific story.

I’m not “dot-connecting”. At least not yet.

Roman Polanski, husband of Sharon Tate, was convicted of child rape much later after the murders. And the sexual underworld of Hollywood is about to come under much closer scrutiny.

It is going to get very ugly and scary folks.

Groove. Where Are You?

I have to get my keester out of the leather recliner and do something. I know. I know. Dave version 68.2 is not loading properly. Could be a hardware problem. I pretty sure my Motherboard has been defective since it came from the factory.. So I have had to come up with work arounds again and again.

I believe in the therapeutic value of Popeye. The cartoons always set me straight. Just the music is delightful on its own. So Popeye, Olive Oyl, Bluto, and Wimpy are here providing intensive therapy.

On the pornography front, I watched two women, 40ish, full-figured, and naked, make love/have sex with each other on video, just 2 people connecting, beyond the mere physical sense of the word. To some people, it’s perverse and twisted, both the performance of the act and the digital recording of said act. Then again, I aspire for that sexual love with my wife. I guess you have to not give a fuck, to fuck. Ya know what I mean?

I’ve watched trains today, been to the periodontist for him to check the holes in my jaw he created, had a nap, early dinner, and a digital voyeuristic experience. My friend texted me about the crappy bus service in town. J is watching The Bachelorette. What can I say?

Now I am posting. I know all the moves in the self-help dance. And I’m a wallflower.