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Curiosity

14 Tuesday Feb 2017

Posted by David in memoir, Sexual Identity, Suburbia

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"Rated X" Adult films, Film, Porn Stars, Sex

Adult Content

Way back in the early Seventies, a movie was released from Sweden entitled  I Am Curious- Yellow.  Shortly thereafter came its sequel, I Am Curious-Blue. Blue and yellow are the colors in the Swedish flag. Get it? The curiosity centered around sex, naked people having intercourse.  I remember going to the Rose Bowl Drive-in to see it. The Rose Bowl had an incredibly cool sign, red neon roses. The sign was the most memorable aspect of every excursion to the The Rose Bowl.  Watching this “fine” Swedish import was no exception. Viewing Porn was just beginning to go mainstream in the Seventies, for better or for worse.  Visual, cinematic pornography is now ubiquitous.  But in the Seventies, you had to go out of your way to see porn. It was an excursion into some seedy, sketchy places.  Porn still existed on the periphery and  The Rose Bowl sat on that edge.

The Rose Bowl was on Rte 1, the “Number One Highway”, as it was known then.  Near it was the Wigwam Motel, a tourist court of small one room cabins, spaced in a semi-circle around a larger building that served as office and restaurant.  There was a wooden representation of a “tipi”,  that comprised the roof. Hence the name “wigwam” could be justified. Further up Rte 1 was the Jamaica Country Club, a swimming pool for African-Americans in the days of segregation.  Simply put, it was a different world. The Rose Bowl is gone, as is The Wigwam. The Jamaica Country Club remains, at least physically, if not as a business. The area is giving way to suburban commercial encroachment, a Sonic Drive-in, Taco Bell,  Arby’s, several mini-storage places, antique shops galore.

There were other venues for porn back then. A fraternity house would acquire some “stag” films and show them to male collegians, for a fee. They were black and white, silent films with various sex acts (never sexual activity between males, however) depicted. The college boys (yes definitely boys!) would watch and make comments, predictably as juvenile, immature and sexist as the films, location and  context would inspire. I watched, because I was curious. Here was sex depicted, mysterious, daunting, powerful.  The filmmakers were not Henry Millers or Anais Nins or Joyces.  There was no thought to “art” in these grubby, grainy shorts.  Yet they were, in their way, art. The films were forgettable, except for one which featured two women who were having penetrative sex with a double headed dildo.  It must be said that the performers were not silicon- enhanced “stars”, but rather ordinary women, not particularly attractive, not ugly either.

The main location for “X-rated ” films in Richmond in the 70’s and 80’s was a movie house near  Virginia Commonwealth University called the Lee Art Theater, later called the Lee “X” Theater.  The films were from Essex or Caballero and starred Seka, Vanessa del Rio, John Holmes, John Leslie, the usual suspects. I remember going on slow business afternoons, the theater incredibly dark, the smell of Pine-Sol in the air. Occasionally there were “strippers”, usually female porn stars, like Vanessa del Rio, Annie Sprenkle, and Juliet Anderson, aka “Aunt Peg”. I vaguely recall Vanessa being busted for cocaine possession during her visit to Richmond, but I could be mistaken.  She took off her costume to the song She’s A Latin From Manhattan.   Gathering up the pieces of her freshly discarded outfit was “Dirt Woman”, a transgendered individual, notable for his obesity and a  crude similarity to the late Divine (aka Harris Glen Milstead), the John Waters “superstar”.  He did this for all the travelling performers. Annie Sprenkle did her show against a back drop of slides, one of which featured a Renault Le Car.  She was working on her doctorate at this time. The announcer mispronounced her name, calling her Annie “Sprinkles”.  When Juliet Anderson appeared, she stripped down, put on some kind of cover-up, then sat down for a Q & A with the audience. She did ask that the audience members not smoke.  She had a second hand smoke issue.  She shared that the porn business was rough; women had to buy their own underwear. I asked her if her parents knew she was in the adult film business. She said they did.  All in all,  she was representative of everybody’s sexually liberated individual living in San Francisco.  This was before AIDS, before porn was shot direct to video; when adult films were still marginal.  Eventually VCU bought the building and uses it for something other than showing sleazy movies.

With the advent of the VCR, “Adult” cable channels and finally the internet, porn went mainstream and arguably ubiquitous.  Now I have seen it all. I am no longer compelled by a perverse curiosity.  Yet I still yearn for the erotic, for love expressed through sexuality.  The sexual drama lives, as it always has, between my ears.

Friday: The Mind Races

10 Friday Feb 2017

Posted by David in Gender Roles

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Organizing.

Ever have one of those mornings, where your thoughts are going from one idea to another, seemingly without plan or resolution of one concept before another creeps in?

That is my mental state right now. I’m not going to call 911 or anything, but it’s down right annoying. Maybe I’m too jazzed up on coffee. I dunno.

You see, last night I got tired of looking at this honkin’ big package of Charmin Bath Tissue just sitting out in the downstairs pile of clutter. I knew where it could go; in the upstairs bath/laundry room on a shelf over the washing machine. But there was junk on it, old towels and linens we would never use, like a toilet seat cover bearing an image of Santa Claus. That is going to Goodwill real soon. So I organized this shelf and space to put stuff magically opened up. Then I started thinking about all the others spaces I could liberate from their clutter. 

Then I started thinking about what are “male” jobs and what are “female” jobs. I don’t want to re-write every social norm in Western society, but running a house doesn’t carry a specifically “male” or “female” skill set, whatever those two may be respectively.

Doggone it! I like cooking, cleaning, and organizing, obviously  a lot more than my spousal unit. 

Here goes! That was liberating to say that.

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“Once More Into The Breech, Dear Friends!”

08 Wednesday Feb 2017

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Haircut, Physical Therapy

Here I go again, Physical Therapy. The doctor visit yesterday ended with a prescription for a course of prednisone and twice weekly sessions of PT for some residual, more or less constant, muscle 


pain near the fusion site and some persistent tingling in my left arm which we think is related to some issues in the cervical vertabrae. Fun. Fun. Fun.

Later Today

I had my PT session. The goals for both issues is flexibility. We started off with a traction session on my neck. That was followed by some general stretching and flexibility exercises for the  legs.  Evidently lack of flexibility in the leg muscles puts extra strain on the back. Who knew? 

Post PT, I got a haircut.  I got a “Spring” haircut because it’s down right warm here in Ole Virginny’.  Between sweat in my hair from walking and pool chemicals when I swim, I feel like my hair is a gunk reserve. So Karina, my barber,  gave me close to The Works.  I would fit right in at Camp Lejeune.

Topping off the day’s excursions was a trip to the supermarket, in this case Food Lion.  The “re-set” team was in this particular store today, resetting specific sections according to the monthly schedule. I saw a crew on frozen dinners, bottled water, and  bath soap, I believe.  This is of interest to me, because I spent several years doing this particularly nasty work in some grocery stores in rural Virginia; towns like Saluda, Kilmarnock, Bowling Green, Colonial Beach.  I left today with an enormous sense of gratitude about being retired.

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Football, Amtrak, Walking. A Hodge-Podge

06 Monday Feb 2017

Posted by David in Amtrak, cooking, Exercise/ Fitness, food, Uncategorized

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Canada, food, Football, Walking

So here it is Monday.  I did watch part of Super Bowl LI yesterday, but I had better things to do so I turned it off. Then I found out the Patriots won in overtime after trailing 28-3 at one point. Quite frankly I was not surprised.  I am just glad football is over and done with for another few months. Pro football season is like sitting down to a long meal with many courses. Then, when dessert comes (in this case, the Super Bowl), I just can’t eat (or watch) any more.

My good friend JK texted me that he found out he could go to Montreal from Richmond on Amtrak for $84, one way. That is if he books now for a June 30 departure.  Sounds like a deal.  Mrs CorC? and I might take that trip.  The only fly in that ointment is a nearly seven hour layover in New York between trains.  That is if one arrives in New York at 1:40 AM and departs for Montreal at 8:15 AM.  Penn Station just isn’t that interesting.  I would have to plan on more time in New York.

JK’s intention is to spend more time in Canada, perhaps going to Quebec City and Toronto at the very least.  Canada has to be cooler than Virginia in the Summer, temperature-wise.  For ambiance, Canada must be way cooler than Virginia. Plus there is the access to Cuban cigars.  I understand Montreal is a restaurant paradise.

Mass yesterday was rather somber, with the passing of my friend Mike M on everyone’s mind. The funeral isn’t until this Friday.  I don’t know why.

I have resumed my walking in earnest.  I did not realize how much I missed it. I like being connected to the World when I walk.  Swimming is great and I groove on the isolation when I swim.  Swimming lends itself to contemplation

I did some cooking last night, grilled salmon and steamed asparagus. No bread, rice , potatoes or pasta. I’m going for some major starch reduction here. I had fruit for dessert.

More exercise. Better dietary choices. This mindfulness might stick this time.

Requiescat In Pace: Mike

03 Friday Feb 2017

Posted by David in Catholic Life

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Candlemas, The Rosary

In my most recent post Alternative Healing, I mentioned I went to the Seven AM Daily Mass at Mary, Mother of the Church Abbey. I saw my friend Mike M, a local dentist and very active Catholic.  When I came in to the Church in 2010, he led our RCIA ( Rite of Catholic Initiation for Adults) Class. After Mass we talked a bit. He told me he was praying The Rosary for a young man, who had just entered an alcoholism rehabilitation program.  He asked that I pray  The Rosary for this young man.  All in all, it was an unremarkable conversation with a man whose life is about service to God, His Church, and his fellow human beings.

Last night, I was checking my e-mails when one titled In Memoriam caught my eye. Expecting the deceased to be one of  several parishioners I knew to be in ill health, I was astonished to discover that Mike had died.  Driving down to the Evening Mass for Candlemas, he felt ill, pulled off the road and dialed 911. Taken to hospital he died of a massive heart attack, his aorta irreparably damaged.

The old cliches’ took over “You never know”. “He looked fine when I last saw him.”   You know them all. Mike was not quite 70.  He leaves a widow, two children, four grandchildren.  One of my most cherished memories of Mike was of  him leading his grandchildren in Grace before they ate their Happy Meals at McDonald’s one Sunday afternoon. He showed them how to make the Sign of the Cross before the Blessing started.

His life was about doing what matters.  We should all have such clarity and singleness of purpose.

May the souls of the Faithful Departed, especially Mike, by the Mercy of God, rest in Peace.

Alternative Healing

02 Thursday Feb 2017

Posted by David in Health Issues

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Pain, recovery, The Rosary

Having a spinal fusion is like rolling the dice. You might win. You might not. On balance I am satisfied with the outcome and would do it all over again. But.  There are days when my back hurts at the surgical site or near it.  I am too far post-op to get any opioids for pain. Naproxen, acetaminophen or ibuprofen work sometimes, but some days I think I could accomplish as much pain management with Tic-Tacs.

This morning, around 4:30, was one of those times. I was up for a while, went back to bed, still hurting. I said to myself, “Why don’t you pray The Rosary?”  So I did. The Glorious Mysteries. All five Decades. I then read part of Fr. Reginald Garrigou-Lagrange’s The Three Conversions Of The Spiritual Life. It is a profound, little book, dense with observations about the devout life.

I won’t say the pain miraculously and dramatically departed, but it lessened in intensity. My self-absorption with the pain went away.  I went to the 7:00 AM Mass at Mary, Mother of the Church Abbey. Another crack in the facade of self-absorption.

I came home, finally sleepy. About the time I woke up, a fellow alcoholic, whom I didn’t know called. He needed a ride to a meeting. So we went. 

“Out of self, into others.” is one of those AA slogans, simple yet true.  I’ve spent the day living in the spirit of that slogan. I feel a lot better. Useful.

Fantasy At Tea Time

30 Monday Jan 2017

Posted by David in cooking, Fruit, Love and stuff, seduction, Tea

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Fantasy, Oranges, Patchouli, Tea

I hear the kettle begin its slow deliberate rumble as it approaches its boiling shriek. I consider my choices of tea in the multiple options: black, green, or herbal, bags or loose, hot or cold. The delicious, exotic names tempt the imagination before they please the palate. Lapsang Souchong, Gunpowder Green, Golden Assam, peppermint, Red Zinger.

Today Gunpowder Green wins. When the water boils, I fill the pot to warm it, swish the boiling water about, empty the pot and add the four teaspoons of the dried specks of Gunpowder Green Tea. I set the timer and let it steep. When  I return, the tiny specks have grown to large leaves, more reminiscent of spinach than of mundane old tea.  The bitterness I soften with two teaspoons of turbinado sugar, the tawny crystals, dissolving in the hot brew. I have a navel orange I have sectioned. I think of the line from the Leonard Cohen song  Suzanne.  “And she brings you tea and oranges that come all the way from China.”

And now I am not the one who brewed the tea or sectioned the orange.  It is my lover. I smell the patchouli, from the incense or is it her perfume?  I watch as she pours the tea from the classic Japanese pot into my handleless cup. She offers a section of orange. I savor its sweetness as I gaze into her eyes and move to her lips to kiss them 

Our tongues twist and explore these places, these mouths, they know so well.  I now kiss the back of her neck , the top vertebra exposed, unbutton her shirt to show the splendid, naked flesh and now place a decade of kisses down her bony, beautiful spine.  

And if more should come and if tea time flows to night and the bed becomes our sanctuary and our shrine, then it is a day well spent.

Midnight

29 Sunday Jan 2017

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It’s 12:17. I had a good day on balance yesterday. I’m sitting up because I can’t sleep. Pain mostly keeps me awake. It’s just there.  I will eventually fall asleep, bolstered by pillows on my side, taking the pressure off my back.

It’s just my life right now, pain coupled with loneliness. My wife is with me every day in a marriage without intimacy. Friendship, yes, love in its own way, yes. Intimacy, no. Sometimes that emotional pain overrides the physical pain.

I have an idea for a prose poem I plan to write and publish later.

Criminals Amid The Innocent

27 Friday Jan 2017

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Eichmann, Pope Francis

I’m a great believer in the Law of Unintended Consequences.  Things just happen that the planners don’t plan on.  Sometimes those consequences are more dire than the problem deemed necessary to correct.  Examples from history  would include the World War that proceeded from the response to the assassination of Archduke Franz Ferdinand in 1914, or the rise of Organized Crime in the USA after the passage of the XVIII Amendment and the enforcing law, The Volstead Act.

Right now, refugees are flooding Western Europe and, to a lesser degree, North America, from the brutal wars in the Middle East, principally Syria.   This has not been the only refugee crisis in recent history.  After World War II, there were millions of refugees, Displaced Persons,  in dire need of a new home and a new start.  Present among the refugees, were the very persons who caused this humanitarian crisis,  Nazi war criminals. They used the crisis they precipitated to escape justice, blending in with the refugees.

Fast forward to 11 May, 1960, when an automobile worker, walking home from his bus stop, is kidnapped in a Buenos Aires suburb. His identity card said he was Ricardo Klement, a German immigrant to Argentina.  He was, in fact, Adolph Eichmann, an architect of The Final Solution, the Nazi plan to exterminate European Jewry.  Eichmann and other Nazi war criminals used the refugee crisis to escape justice.  His kidnappers were members of the Israeli security service, Mossad. They smuggled Eichmann out of Argentina on an El Al airliner to Israel where he was tried and executed for his war crimes.

Coincidentally, at the time of the Eichmann kidnapping, a young man was at  seminary in Buenos Aires, studying for the Roman Catholic priesthood. His name was Jorge Maria Bergoglio.  He was the son of an Italian immigrant, an anti-Fascist who fled from Mussolini, to the relative safety and freedom of Argentina.  Today that young seminarian is Pope Francis.

The Holy Father is very familiar with the refugee problem.His personal experience informs him of who benefits from refuge granted.  His upbringing in Argentina also tells him of those who exploited the plight of the refugee to avoid justice.  Today a refugee, sadly, may not be an innocent fleeing a blood bath, but rather a criminal intent on perpetrating more violence. Good judgment on the part of Western governments is critical to protect their countries from those who wish it ill.

Onward Through It All

26 Thursday Jan 2017

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I have no idea what’s going to come out of my fingers this afternoon/evening. Yesterday I started walking again. I did 4 miles. The weather was more like April than January. Today, it is winter again, cold and windy. Today I walked 2 miles, more to let my body ease into a routine than anything else. I like watching the neighborhood dogs and the neighborhood children. We have Corgis, huskies, whippets. They all have their own dog personalities.  The children like to play; basketball, bicycling, riding their scooters.  They are children and they have fun. What more can one ask?  The mothers take their babies out in their strollers.  Life goes on.

I want to walk and swim on the same days.  I think my body will thank me for it.  I’ve swum a couple of times this year. The bronchitis really got me on the exercise.  Doing both swimming and walking will have beneficial aerobic benefits and also strengthen arms and shoulders, legs and lower back.  And burn calories. I need to burn calories.

 

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