This Daddy/little girl dynamic is most intriguing. I find myself growing into the “Daddy” side of the dynamic. Today, she did not eat her lunch because she worked under six hours. After her work, we met at First Watch for lunch. When we got home, her Waldorf chicken salad felt warm and her ice pack lunch sack was basically room temperature. I told her I thought it would be OK to save, but the more I thought about the less confident I felt about sending it with her another time.
“J, I think I should just make you new chicken salad. I’m throwing the old stuff out.”
“Thank you for doing that.”
I have some small container-sized blue ice blocks that I will now use in addition to her cold-pack lunch kit.
I found a Disney cartoon DVD at the library today, Ichabod And Mr Toad. These are retelling of The Legend Of Sleepy Hollow and The Wind In The Willows. What little girl doesn’t like Mr Toad and Company? I mean they are cute, as I remember them. I reserved a copy of the movie Anne Of Green Gables for her at the library.
When I went to Target, I found Peppridge Farm Cookies on sale so I bought two packages. She likes the Tate’s Bake Shop ones but I think those will be a special treat.
I don’t think she is conscious to a lot of these “little” characteristics. And if she were aware of any “age play” characteristics, I think she would be resistant. But letting out this part of herself isn’t necessarily a conscious process.
I want this to be more than a game. I want her to feel protected as she never has felt before.
Succulent Savage said:
What a beautiful expression of your love for her. ♥
Not sure I’ve written about this much, but Daddy wasn’t a Daddy before He met me. I’d explored my little side and knew enough to tell Him. He was a little bit uncomfortable with the idea at first. He did some research and learned more about what a DD/bg relationship is. As He talked to me and got to know me, the Daddy in Him came out naturally. It was a curious process for Him, too. After a year + I can’t imagine Him ever being anything else. lol Neither can He!!!! 🙂 Wish the two of you could talk. Daddy to Daddy is a good thing.
Thank you. This is about looking into my own heart too. She is smart. And I think she is looking for some ulterior purpose on my part. And yeah, I want a physical (sexual) relationship, but I am not playing a game. This is about taking care of Gigi (that’s the name her Goddaughter gave her when she first started talking and J has used it ever since to refer to her Inner Child). This is a part of her she wants to feel safe in expressing.
Succulent Savage said:
I know. ♥ You’ve found a way to reach into both of you and bring back… or develop… a missing part. Love underlies it all. You want a physical relationship with J again, sure. Developing the Daddy/little girl relationship isn’t something which can be played acted. It’s not a game for either party if the needs and desires are actually there. It’s a natural response for both. She may wonder why the change and your motive…. it’s simple. You want to love her and make her feel loved… and this is a way that feels good for you to do it!!! That part isn’t a game. Consistency is good. 🙂 The safety and protection you’re offering will shine through…. along with the joy you have in doing the Daddy things. I can see Daddy’s joy in watching my face light up over things and His contentment of doing things which make me feel happy and loved. Can’t make those things up. ♥
Here’s a fun thought to ponder…. It’s not age play if it’s who you are naturally.
i love watching your process with this. It reminds me of what it was like with Daddy as He grew into Daddy. The day came that He wanted to take me ice cream and buy me a green balloon. i grew more into a little with Him because it was real and safe…..
Such a lovely ‘Daddy’ and the Tate’s oatmeal are my addiction.. 😊😊😊
I am just who and what I am. It’s seeming like that for Gigi too. I’m glad you are developing your own language together and that you are enjoying this too. In many ways, that’s an extremely important piece ❤️