I was going along minding my own business, hoping my wife would be happy about something. She tells me she has trouble figuring out how to respond to make me happy. This means what?
If I share that I need physical intimacy (aka SEX ), and she has trouble with being sexually attentive, approachable, and vulnerable, then it’s better for me to not express my needs.
It is time to put the mask back on. Stop the naïve optimism. This is what reality looks like.
Dispatches From Dystopia 
The hardest thing to do is be HONEST. It means that both of you will be really uncomfortable for a while. Give her an honest choice in making your marriage meaningful to both of you. Physical and emotional intimacy aren’t optional in a relationship… especially the emotional intimacy. The sexual comes from the emotional for most women. Be willing to turn your world upside and get out of your comfort zone of unhappiness and start making changes. It’s not only her if you refuse to be brutally honest.
Thanks. I just don’t have it in me to be honest any more, at least not for a while.