In September 2010, shortly after coming into The Church, J and I did Marriage Encounter. We wrote in our notebooks, did the exercises, wrote the “love letters”. I was going through a drawer and found all that stuff that I had saved. I had planned to throw it out. Then I read what J wrote to me. And I could not toss them, at least not just yet. But it is painful to consider that lack of communication in our marriage. One cannot talk when one is asleep.
World Wide Marriage Encounter
03 Sunday Nov 2019
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Dispatches From Dystopia 
I did marriage encounter with my ex-husband. What a wonderful experience!! Stephen and I struggle with faith, but the weekend is so worthwhile. I might suggest it to him. I know this post is about you, you just gave me an excellent idea. ♥
Just a thought…. Tell J that you ran across the materials and that you read through some of it again. Might be a nice way to open a dialogue.
Could you two (willingness included) go to an encounter group?
Good ideas. She is very private, meaning she would not do well in a group rnvironment
Stephen wouldn’t either for the same reason. The nice part about the encounter groups is that it’s a group of married friends on the same path. Growing up 3/4 of the couples in our parish were part of the same encounter group. Mom was divorced so not a part of. They were lifetime friends that supported one another individually and as a group.
My ex refused to get involved in the encounter groups after we went. Might have helped us a bit. We still wouldn’t have made it, but it might have made things a little easier. We both know what addiction can do to a marriage.