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I was so tired last evening, I went to bed at 8:30. I slept for four hours, had a dream in which I spanked J, her skirt raised, she was wearing pantyhose, nothing else, and in the dream, I did not feel like rolling them down to expose her naked buttocks. This is pretty explicit, as far as my dreaming goes, The spanking took place in my old apartment, where we first made love.
So thoughts are bubbling up. That I went up early means something. That I was with her, rather than downstairs channel-surfing YouTube, is the other main point.
Talking about sex is still the Mount Everest of our marriage. We have to climb that mountain together. The big deal for me now is I have to not be nice. Talk about climbing Mt Everest!
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You know how you climb that mountain? One step at a time 😊
Yes. Assuredly.
My Dear, you are wooing her all over again. Make her fall in love with you and soon you’ll be climbing Mt Everest once again. 😉 Sleeping next to her instead of channel surfing is HUGE!!! You still sleeping in the nude? How did that go, by the way? I think I might have missed that follow up post….
Thanks. Tried it once. And I couldn’t sleep. Felt very self-conscious and that I was being too overt. Will try it again.
I understand that feeling. ♥ You’ll get to where you want to be.
No one shifts alone in a marriage. Your shift is making space for new experiences. I’m glad you are incorporating this consciously and unconsciously. Just telling her that you like it when she does something you like is a huge help. How’s the nightie shopping going?? I wonder if you couldn’t talk about sex because she was too ashamed to ask for That spanking. How did you feel about it in the dream?
Great!
Great! Nightie shopping begins when I get my Social Security on the 28th, we have a Soma at the Mall and another nice shop near there. Her coming home routine is to take her jeans off and sit on the bed in a polo shirt and her “granny” panties. I’m going to suggest she take a shower and put something really comfortable on. Mentioned a shower, she was luke warm about that. Somehow she needs to transition to being home and relaxing. She doesn’t drink, but I’m thinking maybe something like that would help. Also perhaps CBD oil?
She has some joint pain which is why I thought of CBD oil.
It’s known to be helpful for anxiety and pain relief
OK
I specifically recommend soma because it’s great quality and none of it will make her feel rediculous or like you want her looking like she shops at Fredericks of Hollywood. If you noticed, many soma models are not young and the reviews are often written by women in their fifties. I understand the need for transition time. I used to take a bath and put on lingerie after I got home from work and cleaned everything. Now I light candles and spend time in meditation. Maybe she can come home and change clothes and then find something she can do to help her unwind and get smaller. Coloring books helps lots. Facebook games. Maybe a coming home ritual with you? It’s important you convey that you like her to have a bath if that actually matters to you. If it does, glittery bath bombs would make any girl excited. If you are looking for just a transitional time to make it more smooth, then ask her what helps her feel comfortable after work. When you feel her energy shift, point out you like it and ask what helps her feel like that. You are developing a shared language.
Very good. I see that. She carries the tension straight through. Some kind of calming ritual routine. And you are right about the Soma.