I am alone. She is at work. It is our anniversary weekend. Seventeen years (17). We had a late lunch out. Then strolling around the mall, we went into Godiva Chocolates and I bought us treats, chocolate dipped macaroons. All in all, they were tasty. But the fun, for me, was in the spontaneity. We came. We saw. We bought. We ate.
Earlier that day, I made the regular foray to BJ’s, buying the usual, croissants, cream, coffee, fruit.
Right now I am more than a little tired. And lonely. We live this disjointed life where we tend to move in different directions. We have been together for 17 years. The only advice I can give to men about an enduring marriage is “Don’t be a selfish pig. It is not about getting your way.”
Night, all.
I think you earned a BJ yourself for making it 17 years! Maybe more spontaneous things will happen next year? It’s okay to be a selfish pig every so often 😊
Oh yeah!
I thought a BJ was obligatory for anniversary and birthday treats.
In many marriages/relationships, they are. But we last had sex in 2008, so things are a little different
I often wonder if she ever realizes that she is still desirable in your eyes. Not feeling wanted as a woman is an agonizing death. I wish you could find a way to communicate around this and remind her you are alive inside. When I was with men, they had bjs every day and sex about five times a week. I understood the value of taking care of a man and felt that it communicates devotion in ways that everything else didn’t. Did you know that biochemically, eating lots of chocolate is the same thing as being in love? ❤️
I didn’t know that about chocolate. Thanks for your concern. There is much rebuilding to do here
Whatever you did to get her to begin with is a great place to start. Little things mean a lot. We live in a culture that tells us we don’t have worth if we aren’t young, thin, desired. She probably has a huge wall built up to protect her from the shame of not believing she still has worth. This is a great opportunity to remind her that you think she is beautiful and be sincere. Or just cover her in melted chocolate! 😊
Chocolate idea is great! Heading to Mass now- alone. Check you later.
Enjoying the day. Shared a dessert with her. A good start.